Sunday, November 29, 2009

Amy Robbins-Wilson Part II



We're back with Amy Robbins-Wilson, the creator of LullabyLink.com and TransformationalMothering.com. Today, Amy will provide some insight into what inspired her to create these sites, her book, and cds.

1)  What inspired you to write Transformational Mothering?

My son, Clayton, was ten months old when I began writing (not coincidentally this was also when he began sleeping through the night).  Writing has always been an outlet for me.  I began writing to help figure out why I was feeling so lost as a new mother.  I felt overwhelmed with decisions to be made and I wondered who am I now? 

It was obvious that I was changing but it was a friend who made it clear to me.  She said,   "Amy, you have gone from being an independent, energetic, adventurous and self-sufficient person to being at home with your baby. You are not depressed; you are transforming. You are on a new path now." Everyone had told me that my life would change when I became a mother, what no one had told me was that I would change.  I carried a notebook around with me for a year, writing notes, affirmations and prayers.  I delivered a sermon at our church about new motherhood and I showed the prayers to a few friends who encouraged me to add stories about my experience.  When Clayton was two I had the first rough draft which I showed to more friends and by the time he was three and a half I had the final copy and design.

Motherhood is a slippery thing to talk about because it is both blissful and exhausting.  Once I could see that I was in a transformational process I understood my life in a new way and wanted to share that perspective with others.


2) What inspired you to create the meditational CD The Divine Hours of Motherhood? 

As a new mother I prayed continuously.  Please God, help my baby sleep.  Please God, help me make the right choices…When Clayton was just a tiny baby a friend gave me a nightlight with Mother Mary on it.  I remember the first time I nursed Clayton by its light.  It made me aware of the sacredness of what I was doing.  It turned a mundane moment into a prayerful event.  I began thinking of night nursings as our “nightlight services” which led me to try to incorporate more prayer into my day as a mother.  I created The Divine Hours to share this perspective with other mothers and to share the lullabies that I had written which I consider to be hymns of motherhood.


3)  Do you have a favorite prayer/lullaby that you have written?

My favorite lullaby would have to be Child of Sunshine which I wrote for my son when he was about four months old.  I put him in a front carrier and walked around a lake that was a few miles from where we were living in New Hampshire.  I was missing my home state of Maine and thinking about the beauty of the natural world and of my son.  By the end of the walk I had all of the lyrics.  I wrote them down on a napkin I had in the car and then the melody followed.  You can hear me sing it on LullabyLink.com.

My favorite prayer is the prayer for birth.  What a wonderful thing to know that you were prayed into this world.  I believe that marking events with prayer makes us aware of the sacredness of each moment.  We begin to see and live life reverently.  


4)  What do you hope that new mothers will take away from your work? 

I hope that new mothers will be comforted and that they will gain a sense that they are not alone.  As a new mother, I was not aware that 50-80% of all mothers will go through some form of post partum blues.  It hit me hard.  New motherhood can be absorbing and isolating.  Being responsible for a new life is a wonder and it is also overwhelming.   My prayer is that mothers and society at large will come to see motherhood as a transformational sacred event and calling.    

5)  What does your book offer to new mothers that others do not? 

 I believe that Transformational Mothering offers honesty of experience and a transformational perspective.  It is not a how-to book; it is a “this is how I dealt with things” kind of book.  There are very few universally right answers for the efforts of motherhood.  Each mother child relationship is unique.  This book offers prayers of comfort, prayers for understanding and prayers for sharing with other mothers.  Rather than giving answers, it offers a framework for discovery.  What I also pray that it does, is offer an opportunity for mothers to understand each other, and different mothering perspectives so that we can unite as a sisterhood rather than get stuck in “mommy wars.”

6)  What do you think was the biggest challenge and the biggest transformation you went through as a new mom? 

The circumstances of our birth were certainly a challenge.  My son was born 6 weeks premature due to a placental abruption and both our lives were at risk during delivery.  However, after we were restored to health the biggest challenge by far was being able to slow down to becoming more of a human-being rather than a human-doing.  My biggest transformation has been a deeper connection to the divine in the everyday and a profound sense of gratitude for my family and for the wonder in my life.

7) What are your favorite memories of the early years with Clayton? 

There are so many!  I remember the bliss of taking him home from the hospital.  I rode in the back seat and supported his little head, he was still so tiny!  I remember watching him sleep cradled in his father’s arms.  Napping with him on our couch.  Then there are the moments of recognition.  I remember one morning he had been out for a walk with his father, he came back in and when he heard my voice he turned immediately and smiled as if to say “Ah! There you are!”  Our daily walks with him on my back will always be treasured moments.  Watching him learn baby signs and use them was just amazing.


8)  Please tell us about your commitment to the Children’s Miracle Network and about the Angelsong Endowment.

I remember holding my son for the first time the day after he was born.  Because of the circumstances of his birth we were in different hospitals and not together until then.  He was so tiny that I instinctively made a hollow in my chest and hunched around him as I held him close.  He was hooked up to various machines and his breathing tube and I thought he was just beautiful.  I was overwhelmed with gratitude for all the people who had helped him into the world from the doctors and nurses to those who had created and purchased the machines that he relied on.  I told God that day that I would use my talents and abilities to help support those who had made my family possible.  My husband and I set up the Angelsong Endowment at Eastern Maine Medical Center as a way of giving back to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit there.  A percentage of the proceeds from all my creative work goes to support both the Angelsong Endowment and the Children’s Miracle Network.

9) Where can your book and music be purchased?

Transformational Mothering and The Divine Hours are currently available through our website www.transformationalmothering.com, on Amazon.com.

10)Where can mothers learn more about you and your work?

www.amyrobbinswilson.com is the best place to learn more as well as the place to sign up for email alerts about new releases.  

11) What is your best advice to new mothers? 

Be gentle with yourself, reach out for help, and know that new motherhood is filled with challenges and with miracles.

Amy, it has been a wonderful experience getting to know about you, your endeavors and accomplishments. It's been a privilege to host you, thank you.

Karen Cioffi




2 comments:

Tara McClendon said...

Motherhood is such a transition! And it is a transformation. I think so many of us start off with careers and then find our hearts pulled in two directions once we have babies. I'll be adding this book to my list--even though my sons have managed to survive this far. :]

Karen and Robyn - Writing for Children said...

Hi, Tara,

Hey, hang on to the book...one day your sons will have kids! :) They'll appreciate this book.

Thanks for stopping by.

Karen